What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you also wound you? In this message, we look at the “been through the wringer” attachment style—what happens to your heart and brain when you grow up in a war zone of mixed signals, changing rules, and emotional chaos. Using stories, humor, and John 20, we see how Jesus steps into that confusion, doesn’t shame us for our struggle, and offers real peace, not cliches. If you’ve ever felt like you can’t tell who’s safe, this message is for you.